1. Difficult as it may be, never offer advice, unless you are asked. Comparing your daughter's wedding to that of relative or friend, will sound more like criticism that assistance. If you are asked, it is certainly appropriate to point out positive things that occurred at other peoples' weddings. You can be sure that when she's ready, your daughter will come to you with questions. Wording is very important . . . stay clear of expressions which begin with "When your cousin got married." and "You have to."

2. Get to know your daughter's bridesmaids. It's quite likely that the members of the bridal party will be open to your suggestions and advice. Remember that no one knows the bride as well as, you, her mother. Your input on such things as the theme for the bridal shower may prove invaluable.

3. Become a Web surfer. The Internet can prove to be an enormously helpful resource for pre-screening reception sites, availability, prices, accommodations, and more. Assuming that your daughter has Internet access, sending her the URL's of several Web sites or of pages within particular Web sites, may be a great time saver for her.

4. Be as supportive as you can be. The time before your daughter's wedding will be extremely stressful for her. If you can keep focused on her needs, as opposed to your own (not that we are diminishing the level of your own stress), you will be giving for the greatest gift. Much as you would like to be an active participant, and is difficult as it may be, try limiting the number of phone calls to your daughter, especially as the event grows near.

5. Keep in mind the very special touches that you can add to the wedding day itself. It's the little things like hair and makeup touch-ups, emergency quick-fixes (remember those safety pins), hugs and kisses which your daughter will remember when all is said and done . . . and, after all, isn't that the most important role that you can play?

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